I’ve been trying for a long time to come up with a good post on my ever-evolving thoughts on Warren and I just can’t help but still feel that what is happening right now is exactly right. People should be pissed off. They should be vocally pissed off.
But I’m not convinced that that means Warren’s invitation should be rescinded.
In the long term, what’s going to be best for all of America is for people like Warren to get their heads out of their butts. And I don’t think that isolating him helps remove butts from heads. It just reaffirms their sense of martyrdom and persecution.
What we need to have happen is that we need people to see that, even though they believe themselves to be good people, they do stuff that really hurts people. In the past, those “good” people have been sheltered from that knowledge because gay people stayed in the closet or they fled to the cities or they were otherwise invisible to those good people. So, deciding that opposing stuff that really hurts gay people is easier than it should be for “good” people, because they don’t have to face the repercussions of their actions. Gay people are just not on their radar.
And now! Now, if perchance some good person does start to get a little nervous or weirded out about how gay people are treated, well, the answer is not for you to worry about the deep and vile hypocrisy of your church or its leaders preaching love but advancing pain and suffering; it’s for the gay people to go to treatment and get “de-gayed.”
Just think about this. Someone is causing you pain and suffering. You do all you can to avoid them. You don’t go to their church. You move out of their town. You don’t make too big a deal about yourself so as to try to escape their notice. And yet… and yet they still do what they can to hurt you. And their answer is “Just change and I’ll stop hurting you.”
Let me say that again–”Just change and I’ll stop hurting you.”
That’s the “Christian” message towards gay people. Simple as that; that’s what it boils down to. Oh, sure, they have a million excuses and justifications for why it’s okay, nay practically their duty to hurt gay people who won’t change. But, in the end, it boils down to “You’re making me hurt you.”
And folks, it doesn’t take a genius to see that for the abusive nonsense it is.
If you hurt people who have not hurt you, you are doing wrong.
They gay community has been in a tough spot because of this “you’re making me hurt you” nonsense. On the one hand, sometimes you can stop that kind of nonsense by swinging back a couple of times. But sometimes fighting back will get you killed. Sometimes it seems like leaving those kinds of jackasses behind is the safest response, but what if they come after you?
So, there’s no one right response for the gay community to have.
But it is on all people of good-will to demand an end to blaming gays for the troubles certain streaks of Christians cause them. And part of the way to do that is to call out Warren and the Mormons and their ilk publicly.
And if they aren’t in the public eye, how do we do that?