Kleinheider sent me a link to an old post of his, because someone left him a comment he thought I might find interesting. Before you head over there to read the post, let me just say that Kleinheider asks a question in that post so idiotic that it once and forever gives lie to the adage that there are no stupid question. Some of you may find this question so stupid and upsetting that you feel compelled to drive down to Nashville, beat the shit out of Kleinheider, and then ask him how many men he thinks fantasize about having the shit beat out of them. Please don’t do it. Not only is it unbecoming, it is a crime.
That being said, here’s the link. Here’s the comment:
I realize this is a year old blog however, I felt compelled to respond. In 1992, I was "forced" to take a humanities class for my major. The class I wanted was unavailable to me so I was stuck taking "Intimate Lifestyles". Basically, a human sexuality course. To top it off, surprisingly, I was 1 of 4 women in a class of 40 or so men. At the beginning of class, we were asked to participate in an anonymous survey / questionnaire regarding sexuality, STD’s, abortion, etc. Because of the small number of women, our results / answers were withheld. One of the questions was: If there were no chance of repercussions, would you commit an act of rape (or something similarly worded). When the male professor went over the results, as we all sat in stunned silence, he said "ladies – take a look at each and everyone of these guys – not one of them can deny their answer." 100% of the men said that they would rape if there were no chance of getting caught. The professor then went on to say that the responses averaged around 60% or so but on occasion, it was as high as 80-100%. One of the guys in class irritably replied that it wasn’t fair to expose the men that way when the women weren’t equally exposed. We (women) agreed to have our surveys results read. Though opinions on various topics varied, not one of us condoned rape. I must admit that this has tainted my entire outlook on men, marriage and relationships probably for the rest of my life. Had I just read an article about it in a newspaper or magazine, I don’t think it would have had quite the same jarring effect as it had on me having personally experienced. What is the world coming to?
Once you start thinking about how many men would rape if they thought they could get away with it, you start wondering how many of them have. Weirdly enough, this was a topic of discussion over at Pandagon recently. Over there, Marcotte says "according to the famous Mary Koss study on rape, 4.5% of college men admitted they’d forced a woman to have sex against her will."
Now, I’m no math major, but I believe this means that one in every twenty two college men has raped a woman.
Y’all, seriously. What the fuck?
I have this theory. It goes like this.
A great many of you loathe yourselves. You think you are disgusting and you think your bodies are disgusting. Many of you overcompensate for that self-loathing by developing enormous egos, but at core, you hate yourselves.
You can’t imagine that any woman would just love you for who you are, because you are disgusting and your bodies are disgusting. So, you depend on all the sexist bullshit of our society to keep you in pussy. You depend on women being physically and economically dependent upon you in order to keep us around. Those of you who can’t keep a woman physically and economically dependent on you based on your ability to protect us from other men or your ability to bring home a huge pay check find some other way to make us feel weak and vulnerable without your protection.
Rape, then, is both a symptom of your great self-loathing–you take by force because you can’t ever be sure any woman would willingly have sex with you–and a cry against it–proof that you don’t need us to need you in order for you to be a man. And, conveniently, it reinforces for us the idea that we need a man around, no matter how shitty, to protect us from other men.
This also, I think, is why gay men are such a threat. Gay men willingly love the bodies you loathe, thus calling into question the very foundation of your beliefs about how the world works. Gay men are proof that you aren’t disgusting and that someone who is your equal could love you even without you providing something they don’t have.
This is my working theory at the moment, anyway.
And, obviously, I don’t think every one of you fits easily into this dynamic. I’m using "you" in the general sense.
But shoot, fuckers, one in twenty two. If you’ve got some better explanation, I’d love to hear it. I’m at a loss.