W., stop being such an engineer. No, wait, before you stop being such an engineer, tell me, do you have an Excel spreadsheet devoted to this question?
I suspect you do.
Good god, it’s really a wonder engineers ever get married, with the fretting and the spreadsheeting and the pinning down of everything like life is just a series of bug collections beautiful and frozen in time.
Here are the questions you need to ask yourself before you ask her to marry you.
1. Do you love her?
2. Is your life better off with her in it?
3. When you fight, do you think it’s worth it?
4. Is she going to ruin you financially?
and, 5., which is the hardest, but most necessary question. Do you love her for who she is or do you love her for who you think she could be if only she’d get a few minor things taken care of?
But the main thing to ask yourself is this: Do you want to marry her?
What is the first thing that pops into your head?
If it’s anything other than “yes,” let her go to find someone else.
If it’s yes, then what the fuck? Do it. Take a leap.
Trust your heart and get hitched.
Granted, I know you’ve got to be considering that, if you marry your Lady Friend, that puts you out of the running for one of my five husbands, but it’s a necessary sacrifice, I think.
Now, get out there and get that woman a ring for Christmas!