–Kleinheider and I are in agreement on Marcotte.
–Kleinheider and I are in agreement about Abramson.
–I have a deep bruise on my foot and I don’t know where it came from.
–I have dark brown hair. In there used to be these strands of almost translucent red. You could almost see through them. I think, and I could be wrong, but I think I’m right, that it’s those red strands that are now going silver. I’m really at the point where I need to decide if I’m going to just go gray or start dying. If I could guarantee a brightly silver head of hair, I’d stick with just letting it go naturally, but if it’s going to be gray and dingy, I’d rather stick with brown.
–If we had smell-o-net, I’d totally take a picture/smell stamp of my hair for y’all. It’ just smells so good and clean and feels so soft and curly.
–Can I tell you something and you promise not to get grossed out? I haven’t brushed my hair with any regularity since before I met Exador. I run my fingers through it and condition the shit out of it and take a brush to it on very rare occasions, but otherwise, I just let it alone and it seems to treat me much better than it used to.
Isn’t that weird? I’ve had curly hair all my life and I’ve yet to understand it.
Tiny Cat Pants 
It’s my understanding that brushing curly hair is just asking for trouble.
I think that’s true. I wish someone had told me that thirty years ago (I didn’t have any hair until I was two or three, so, obviously, I didn’t need that knowledge before then).I just remember Exador as the landmark because I wanted to make a good impression on Sarcastro’s crazy friend and I realized I hadn’t even packed a hairbrush. Happily, I don’t think his first impression of me was "There’s a girl who doesn’t brush her hair."Maybe it was, through, and he was just too polite to say.
You must never, never brush your lovely curly hair. You can arrange it with your fingers or (better) when it is wet, comb it with a wide-tooth comb and just do the final styling with your fingers. Never brush it. Ever. Got that?
An old colleague swore by http://www.naturallycurly.com and she had awesome curly hair. The Diva is also an authority on curly hair.
Never use a brush is one of their quick tips. I also like "sleep on a satin pillowcase".
For a second, I read that as "sleep in a satin pillow case," which would have been awesome.
Brushes are bad for curls. My ex used to threaten to brush my curls when I was mean.
Sounds like you have hair like mine! I comb mine regularly, though, because it tends to get tangled up in itself. No brushes, though. they are, indeed, asking for trouble. I love my naturally curly hair to death :)
Well, I went looking for a picture of Frieda and her naturally curly hair to link to here, because it was starting to feel appropriate, but I couldn’t find one. So, I don’t know, let’s just all visualize one or something.
B, it took me years to come to grips with my curly hair. Now I don’t even own a brush. Plus, I finally found a stylist who understands my hair. Enjoy it – everyone is envious of you!
Oooh, did every curly-headed or kinky-headed kid grow up hating their hair because their mom (or whoever) brushed it and it looked all bushy all the time? And then later figure out how gorgeous it was if they took care of it right? I thought it was just me.
Oh, you mean the frizzy bush? And did you ever go when you got to school and put water on it in order to try to settle it back down?And finding a stylist? Damn straight if you find a good one, you’ve got to stick with her.Maybe it would be fun to have a curly haired carnival. If I threw one, would anyone come?
I too haven’t brushed my hair in years. And, it’s so thick and curly, I only wash it once every three days and then I only run a comb threw it when I condition it. The curls do rock!
Hooray for curly hair! I, too, had bushy hair all through elementary, middle, and high school. I never understood why my mom had such nice defined curls and mine were bushy. Why don’t curly-haired moms teach their curly-haired progeny about hair products and no brushing? I read somewhere recently that curly-haired people spend like tons more money on their hair than other people. I’m always trying new products to see what works. Any suggestions?
I deal with my curly hair by using a flat iron and I deal with the gray by an expensive color job. I’m a sell out, I know. I have not grayed gracefully. I’m grateful for good styling products that they didn’t always have. I was telling my daughter yesterday that the only styling product that we used to have, really, was Dippity Do. The problem with curly AND gray is it tends to get really wiry and stubborn.
In my case, my mother can be forgiven for her ignorance; she had straight hair. My curls came in from my father’s side. But they were wild! I had the distinction of being the only white girl in my high school to have that awful solid airbrushing job done on her hair in her high school yearbook picture.
I’m digging on the Aussie conditioner/mousse, Dr. J.
Aussie products are very good for curly hair. I swear by Three-Minute Miracle. Nexxus moisturizing shampoo and Humectress conditioner (can be used as a leave-in) also works well, though it’s crazy expensive.Hey…I’m seeing a trend here. Are all your female readers curlylocks?
I don’t know. If they are, I’m definitely doing a curly-haired carnival.
o, i have that kind of hair, too. lately i have this detangler/conditioning spray, and i just -spray- it into submission. not a "hold" stick thing or anything like that. usually this makes it look okay.or, if not, i just say fuck it and clomp outside anyway.
B, you have fabulous hair. :-)And if not brushing is gorss, I must be vile… I only wash my hair (with actual shampoo) at most 3 times a week. I rinse it more than that, though. My latest stylist turned me on to low- and no-phosphate shampoo… phosphate apparently is the stuff that strips hair of the good oils that keep it soft. It’s especially bad for curls, since curls have a tendency to dryness anyway.The stuff’s pricey, but I will never go back. I use DevaCurl LowPoo (heh) and One Condition conditioner. Amazon sells it. It is yummy-smelling stuff. Kinda weird, though… phosphate is also the stuff that makes shampoo go all foamy and lathery, so using the low-phosphate stuff is like washing your hair wth milk.
Gorss = gross. Sigh.
I have learned (from reading) that curly hair can be picked, or combed, or finger-combed, but that it should never, ever be brushed; I’ve also read that it shouldn’t be shampooed every day, either (although it can be rinsed and/or otherwise conditioned).All this is due to scientific curiousity on my part, because, with the exception of The Perms from Hell, I have had stick-straight hair all my life, when what I wanted was curly hair.