Scared Straight

I have some acquaintances I made this summer who I love dearly, who are planning a trip to Memphis, to Graceland.  They’re planning on driving.

It was all I could do to not throw myself on the ground and beg them to reconsider.

I didn’t, though.  I encouraged them to come, told them how everyone should see Graceland once.

I’m afraid of a lot of things and I didn’t want to project my fears onto them.  You know what I’m saying?  Just because I’d be afraid doesn’t necessarily mean that fear is warranted.

Right now, it’s all I can do to not call them up and just beg them to be careful.  Shoot, it’s all I can do to not drive west and pack up my two dear friends who live over there and move them here.

It’s not just that a woman can be assaulted in a bar, stabbed in the face with a broken beer bottle, and then have it busted over her head just because she looks a little too much like a man for some asshole’s taste.

After all, it could be that her story isn’t the whole truth.


But take a look at the comments.  That’s what gets me.  Not just that someone would do this, but that he seems to have community support.

–Gay people should just stay out of bars.

–Gay people have brain damage.

–He shouldn’t have assaulted her, but if she “chooses to live her life in the masculine,” we can’t condone her actions.

–Perhaps she’s just blowing this out of proportion for monetary gain or to get attention.

–She must have hit on that dude and, in that case, can you blame him for assaulting her?

–“In the South, common sense should also dictate that homosexuals shouldn’t come out to drunks in bars.  […] could get you injured or killed.”

–“The gay society brings it on themselves.”

–And then some charming stuff about how great the KKK was.


I wish I had something witty and insightful to say here, but I really don’t.

Just be careful out there, folks.

8 thoughts on “Scared Straight

  1. Okay, now I have a headache. Argh!!

    PS: I have a great photo of you and I sticking out tongues out at one another… Not that it has anything to do with this post. Just sharing.

    PSS: The German loved the post about the lavish desserts in the early afternoon. He thought he was famous as well he should be with those legs.

  2. I’m crying reading this post.
    You know why.
    This is just horrible and when I read this yesterday, I wanted to just scream.
    I alternated between screaming and the possibility of being a hermit in a cabin miles away from anywhere.

  3. > everyone should see Graceland once.

    Who knew that Southerners had their own Hajj? It looks like they also have their own self-appointed Mutaween. :(

  4. I was just thinking about how many millions of comments people post on websites and how frightening so many of those comments are. But the scariest of all seem to be appended to local newspaper stories. As much as I try to ignore and shrug off wacko comment writers, I’m sometimes reminded that these are real people, many of whom are sincere about what they’re writing, and that there are a lot of them.

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