You’ll have to excuse what I’m about to write. But under the present circumstances, when I want my doctor to avail herself of the most effective and efficient course of action to return me to the land of the pain-free, I am short of patience for anti-abortion men.
Here’s the sentence all you dudes need to practice saying, “At the end of the day, it’s your body and you have to make the best decision you can for you as to what you should do. I can’t tell you.”
Go ahead. Try it now.
I probably shouldn’t get this worked up, but this is where the line is for me, and where I come down firmly on the side of the gender essentialists. You, as a man, cannot know what it is like for me, as a woman, to have the reproductive tract I do. And I’m sorry, but I just don’t believe that you can imagine exactly what it’s like to have organs designed to stir a human being out of a mush of genetic material. You cannot imagine the wide-ranging emotions we feel when they do what they’re designed to do and the great mix of emotions we feel when they don’t.
You might be able to sympathize, greatly, but you cannot know.
And so I’m going to clue you in. All this?
Even if it’s all true–that having an abortion can make a woman depressed, suicidal, etc., etc.,*–so fucking what?
No, seriously. So what?
Women are adult human beings and adult human beings have to make decisions that are difficult, that might be the least shitty choice out of a lot of shitty choices, that THEY MAY COME TO DEEPLY REGRET.
Arguing that abortion is wrong because some women come to regret it only makes sense if you believe that women shouldn’t be and aren’t capable of living with their tough choices and must be protected from having to make those choices.
And the fact that some of you seem to think that you should be the ones making those choices instead, when you will never, ever feel the full weight of the decision? In a fair world, that should seem so ludicrous on its surface as to not even be up for discussion.
*Though let me be clear that many of the things Mr. Cassman is claiming as true are just lies, lies, lies, designed to bolster his point.