One More Thing on Lila Rose

I thought this went without saying in my “evidence that the intake worker at the Planned Parenthood in Memphis would have immediately been like ‘This is weird.'” but Lila Rose is white.  And has a discernible non-Southern accent.  So, a white woman with a non-Southern accent and a weird baby voice walks into the Memphis Planned Parenthood and claims to be 14 and in need of an abortion.  And every Republican in the state is standing around yelling about how this proves that we need to defund Planned Parenthood.

First, it sucks that some zealot is going to get to lie her way into ruining affordable healthcare for the rest of the women in Tennessee.  Most women in Tennessee are never going to need to have an abortion, but access to free or inexpensive birth control, STD screening, PAP smears (without needing a sermon on the glories of Jesus)?   We need those.  And where do we often get those?

And second, you could write a book about all of the anxieties about “good” white girls playing out in this scenario.

But I want to talk just for a second about the thing about this whole thing that really, really pisses me off.  And that is Lila Rose’s (and most of her viewers’) assumption that she should be believed.

A white woman walks into a Planned Parenthood in Memphis, talking with a strange accent in a weird baby voice, claiming to be a 14 year old girl with a 31 year old “boyfriend” and she needs an abortion.

Each one of those things individually is not strange.  White women do walk into the Planned Parenthood in Memphis, though they are not the norm.  Women who have accents that differentiate them from the locals do walk into the Planned Parenthood in Memphis.  Women with weird baby voices.  Women claiming to be 14 who aren’t.  Girls who actually are 14.  Girls who are actually the victims of crimes.  And girls who need abortions.  But taken all together?

And yet, most people, when the talk about this, talk as if it is obvious that the woman Lila Rose is talking to should of course believe everything she says about herself and treat her as such.  And, don’t get me wrong, maybe that’s the case.

But where in the world does that actually happen?

You have to be the motherfucking Goldilocks of white girls to have lived that kind of charmed life.

To get to run around the country acting like, of course, you should be believed when you tell your crazy story in your crazy edited fashion, because… Because you’re “just right.”  Everything about you says “I have the privilege of being taken at my word” and then, when people do afford you that, you fucking turn on them, like they’re the ones doing something wrong, not you using your Goldilocks white privilege to sneak into where you don’t belong and try things out like they’re yours and run away the hero of the story.

Every day in this country women are actually raped and real rape victims have to listen to rape apologists talk about how you need to really be sure you’ve been raped or you might ruin some man’s life and make it harder for “real” rape victims to get the help they need.  Every day, women have to hear about the evils of falsely accusing someone of rape.

And yet, here is this woman whose whole act is lying about being raped and everyone in my state is sitting around talking about what a hero she is for supposedly uncovering a supposed Planned Parenthood worker who didn’t actually do anything against the law.

You want to talk about women who lie about being raped ruining it for other women?

Look no fucking further than the darling of the Pro-(Some) Life Right in this State.

But I guess it’s okay because no actual man was harmed in the making of her vast crazy lie.

19 thoughts on “One More Thing on Lila Rose

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  2. Preach it, B. I saw her the other night on Fox News and was totally appalled. Like, really? You can practically hear the incredulity in the intake counselor’s voice.

    “And yet, here is this woman whose whole act is lying about being raped and everyone in my state is sitting around talking about what a hero she is for supposedly uncovering a supposed Planned Parenthood worker who didn’t actually do anything against the law.”

    A. F-ing. Men.

    What an arrogant, self-righteous, hypocritical sleaze of a woman. I watched her fawning, doe-eyed, good-girl performance on Fox News and was just absolutely disgusted. How dare she!

    I just abhor how this sort of person acts like all women are uncontrollable sluts who would jump at the chance to get free abortions on demand. “Oh, sweet! No responsibility for me! I’ma go off and have all kinds of unprotected sex all willy-nilly! Yeeehaw!” Maybe I’m naive, but I have to assume that even considering an abortion for most women is an intensely profound experience, frought with fear and worry and a whole host of emotions that people don’t particularly want to experience. And this coming from a MAN!

    I just can’t be mad enough at this sort of cavalier attitude about something that affects real, actual women. Not baby-voiced privileged liars. It just turns my stomach.

  3. If we want to get our legislative knickers in a knot, we could always strengthen Tennessee law so that it’s no longer legal for damn grown men to fuck eighth grade girls. That might actually benefit some actual children who might could use some protecting.

    Think of the children, as they say.

  4. If there was a crime committed here (which is what the Creepy-Con Crew is twisting themselves into knots to re-assert), then they should take up their complaint with the goddamned District Attorney’s office in Shelby County. Get an indictment.

    And while they’re at it, they can summon Ms. Rose as a material witness and go to great pains to authenticate her story and perhaps do some parallel investigation into this little case of vigilante entrapment.

  5. What would be the crime? Entrapment? Identity fraud? Making false reports?

    Oh…you mean they think the Planned Parenthood employee committed a crime by not reporting something that a) hadn’t happened and b) isn’t actually illegal?

    If someone needs a whole bunch of dogs that won’t hunt, I think I found the kennel.

  6. they think the Planned Parenthood employee committed a crime by not reporting something that a) hadn’t happened and b) isn’t actually illegal?

    I’d be curious to know what the crime is, myself.

    I think it has something to do with the idea that this vigilante sting operation was supposed to have uncovered some conspiracy to allow the continued victimization of a minor because of other controversial institutional practices at Planned Parenthood – which are, in the cutesy inflated rhetoric of the Creepy Conservatives, “abortuaries.”

    And if Planned Parenthood is suborning illegal acts? Whatever they are? Yeah, get a muhfuggin’ indictment and prosecute them under relevant statutory authority. End of story.

    They can’t do it under the law, so they’re badly connecting a series of non-existent dots to further limit clinic access, to further limit the right to an abortion, etc. The freedom of choice amounts to jack shit if there’s not an abortion provider to be found in which this right may be exercised. That, as always, is the less visible – if not more devastating – tactic in the pro-life strategic arsenal. If they can’t get de jure prohibition, they’ll damn sure do as much as they can to get de facto prohibition.

  7. Your “pro(some) life” got me thinking about neologisms, which led me to this:


    “I don’t understand people who are pro-life and pro-death penalty. That’s like saying ‘No, don’t kill ‘em. Let’s wait and see how they turn out. Let’s see if the afterschool program works and if not, then we’ll whack ‘em.’ That’s not pro-life; that’s just pro-crastinating.”—Lee Camp

  8. I already posted this on Kleinheider, but my take’s here: Notice the clinic workers took this woman’s story (that she was afraid of her parents) at face value.

    You gotta figure they see A LOT of young people whose parents would beat them within an inch of their lives for pretty much no good reason, even without an abortion or an older boyfriend in the mix.

    My guess is the workers were trying to protect this girl, and this is their thanks.

    You just gotta hope there’s karma involved here, somehow.

  9. I just don’t think we can tell from the editing whether the intake worker took the woman’s story at face value or not, even. The whole thing is so strange.

  10. The racial angle on this farce was the first thing that stood out to me, and good job on bringing it to the fore.

    Not too bad for a white girl, B. Not too bad at all.

  11. I’m absolutely pro-choice. Here’s my question: what is more important- defending one employee at one Planned Parenthood clinic because she was lied to when she made the decision that she did OR… protecting the funding and clinics so that girls and women with legitimate health needs have access?

    Do I really have to ask this?

    She not only made a highly querstionable decision in telling someone to lie, she got punk’d by the right. Epic fail.

  12. Johnny, I think the purpose of Aunt B.’s post is more like the effect of picking on a sore scab. The issue at hand is not really the issue at hand, if that makes any sense. There’s something deeper at work here.

    Feel free to correct me, B.

  13. “I’m 14” could mean “I’m 14 weeks pregnant.” The thing that the audio editing (i.e., repeating “I’m 14 … I’m 14 … I’m 14”) shows to everyone – very clearly – is that this girl is a great editor who can easily take quotes out of context.

    What you do NOT see in the video is anyone’s lips moving. You do not see any lipsynching to indicate that any of this is real – or if it’s just audio spliced to make it sound like something that it’s not.

    It’s a brilliant piece of illusion to have the counter up in the left-hand corner of the video. The counter makes it appear that the audio is being recorded, as is, in real time. But that’s not necessarily true.

    So, given the fact that 1) this woman is proven to be lying about her age (Lila is 20, not 13, not 14 … she’s 20), 2) proven to be lying about her “31-year-old boyfriend”, and even 3) proven to be lying about being pregnant, I just don’t see why anyone (especially Ron Ramsey) is taking her seriously.

  14. My point is two-fold. One, I have only Lila Rose’s word at the moment that this even took place at the Memphis Planned Parenthood. There aren’t any establishing shots. We don’t see the faces of any of the workers. For all I know, she walked into any doctor’s office on the planet and the she and her friends spliced in their own audio.

    If someone came forward and said, “Oh, yeah, that’s totally and without a doubt ‘Jennifer’ who works at the Memphis Planned Parenthood,” I would still want to hear “Jennifer’s” side and I would want someone with a better legal mind than me to help me with the statute. Because it still reads to me like ‘Jennifer’ did nothing illegal.

    But even if all this is true and even if ‘Jennifer’ did something wrong, the most I would want to see happen is for her to be fired and the Memphis staff forced to sit through some retraining.

    Which brings me to point two–this isn’t about whether ‘Jennifer’ did something wrong or not. This is about whether this is an appropriate piece of evidence by which to judge whether Planned Parenthoods throughout the state loose their state funding.

    And I’m pissed off that some woman with a grudge can splice together a YouTube video in which she lies about who she is and what her circumstances are and it cost Tennesseans access to needed healthcare. That’s what the stakes are–do we fund planned parenthood or not, based on this anti-woman propeganda?

  15. Not to mention that she gets to lie about being raped and is treated like a hero, when women who are actually raped have such a tough time being believed. When you’re actually raped, you’re treated like a liar. When you’re lying about being raped, you’re a hero.

    That galls me.

  16. “And yet, here is this woman whose whole act is lying about being raped and everyone in my state is sitting around talking about what a hero she is for supposedly uncovering a supposed Planned Parenthood worker who didn’t actually do anything against the law.”

    Something I didn’t initially think about, but you’re right.

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