“Hey, It Happens to Everyone.”

When a young person tells you she’s been sexually assaulted, is it weird to day, “This happens to everyone, you’re not alone.”?  You don’t want to seem dismissive, like it happens to everyone, so it’s just a part of life, so suck it up and get over it already.  But you want to say “Hey, this is very common and you are not alone, there are a lot of people who understand what you’re going through and can help.”

And, even if it’s okay, can I just say that it’s such a shitty thing to have to say?

2 thoughts on ““Hey, It Happens to Everyone.”

  1. Yes, it’s appropriate to say “You’re not alone. What can I do to help?” Nobody will hear “oh well, suck it up, life goes on, shit happens” from that.

    And yes, it’s tragic that there are so many of us. But it would be even more tragic if we couldn’t help each other.

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