Oh Lord

So, this happened. Very close to where that thing didn’t happen to me. Or did. I don’t know. Isn’t that the thing about almosts? I felt like that dude had ill intentions. And yeah, he grabbed for me, but he left when I was like “Hell no” and I told the people in the community center. So… I don’t know… nothing happened.

But I hope this isn’t that same guy.

You know, all this time later, the thing that sticks with me about that is that, when I went back into the park, which is literally the size of a football field with a track circling it, to tell the woman who was still in the park about the sketchy dude, I had to specify that it was neither of the two creepy dudes just hanging out in the park staring at her while she ran but a third dude up in the parking lot.

Anyway, I hope it’s not the same dude, because then I’ll feel like I didn’t do enough, but I hope it is, otherwise, that’s disturbing to think there are a number of creepster dudes in that part of town willing to act on it.

4 thoughts on “Oh Lord

  1. I’m very glad. But I wanted to post earlier–I doubt you could have done anything more than you did. Telling the jogger and the community center folks was a mitzvah. I (sadly) doubt the police would’ve been willing to take a report.

    I may’ve mentioned this before (forgive me) but I was verbally threatened with rape and physically backed into a doorway on Gay Street in Knoxville. After I got out and was safe, the police would not send an officer to take my statement. I saw that guy several times the rest of that summer, just hanging out with the other homeless guys downtown.

  2. Yeah, this is a big drawback to the whole “see something say something” ethos: no one gives a shit if you have something to say.

    And really, there was so little for me to say. He asked me if I wanted to go for a walk in the park in what I felt was a menacing tone and then he tried to grab me. But when i said, “What the fuck? Don’t touch me.” he backed off, got in his truck, and drove away.

    I mean, i felt like I’d just dodged something potentially really terrible through means I still don’t wholly understand (maybe he finally got nervous about the dog?). But he didn’t touch me and he left when I got upset.

    Just objectively, there’s nothing to report.

    Still freaks me the fuck out, though.

  3. Betsy, I was the victim of a crime this summer (I was unhurt) and as a result I have gotten to know just about all the cops on my side of town. They DO want you to report stuff like this and they DO make note of it. At least in my precinct (East) they do. One thing I would suggest is that you get to know the law enforcement in your part of town (and the park wasn’t in your part of town, but your cops can still help you if you run into trouble elsewhere). You should have a community liaison officer. Also, your commander may have regular community meetings. Our commander, who I think very highly of, has a crime prevention lunch that is open to all once a week and monthly meetings that are at night. Our lieutenant in charge of special investigations specifically asked me to be on the lookout for anything suspicious. Every time I have emailed me he has responded in an hour. The most hilarious thing that has ever happened in my part of town is when I noticed a suspicious car, went outside and photographed it and got the plate, and sent it to the lieutenant. It turned out to be a SWAT team. They are still laughing about that. Anyway, you might end up calling the cops on the cops or you might end up reporting someone who is wanted on an outstanding warrant. If you have your camera and you can get a photo (especially of the plate) you may help prevent or solve a crime. The cops I know never tire of reminding me they are here “to protect and serve.” I like to think there are here for my own amusement as well.

    I’m glad you were unharmed! I don’t think it’s too late to report this guy. The non-emergency number is 862-8600.

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