And So It Goes

One of our younger relatives posted some pictures of him/herself engaged in an inappropriate activity. To Instagram, which means the Butcher saw it, which means I saw it. And now I’m bummed.

Because it’s just so fucking stupid. And the internet is forever. And I have long been worried about whether this nonsense in the Phillips family is going to affect the next generation and the answer is yes.

I spent so much of my young adult life worried about my brothers going to jail, worried about them fucking up so bad that they couldn’t come back from it.

And tonight I learned that’s not a worry I get to put behind me.


4 thoughts on “And So It Goes

  1. I have to wonder if the downside to being part of a generation that grew up with the Internet and social media always being a thing is that you don’t realize the downside to it always being there. Forever. Easy to find a trail of what you did/posted. You see it as being just as easy to tweet or post something on Facebook as it is to talk to someone face-to-face, and you don’t realize the permanence of the proof you’re leaving.

    I have a younger sister who is very intelligent and fairly tech-savvy, but she constantly posts on a public social media account about smoking pot. She’ll be graduating from college soon, and despite my constant warnings—to the point of nagging—that employers are not just old fuddy duddies who don’t know how to find you online, she keeps it up. I know she’s not dumb, but I guess she doesn’t believe me that it can, and probably will, prevent her from finding a job in a market that’s already flooded with over-qualified applicants.

  2. Yeah, I think they just don’t have the “Oh my god, people really share that with everyone?!” feeling those of us who are just a little older might still have. And it’s like in your sister’s case, there are things that, even if I don’t think they’re wrong–and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with smoking pot–I know people do AND that it’s illegal. So, if you’ve picked up a habit that’s illegal and people are judgmental about, maybe don’t broadcast it to places people who might judge you–like bosses or the cops or your spouse (depending on what you’re doing)–might see it.

    In this relative’s case, he wasn’t doing anything I think is wrong. What terrifies me for him is that he doesn’t seem to have any sense of how much trouble he could get himself and his whole family in if the police or family services learns he’s doing it. How do you instill self-preservation into young people? I have no idea.

  3. Exactly. I don’t think smoking pot is wrong; I think it’s stupid that it’s illegal. But it *is* illegal, and since there aren’t a lot of corporations that are cool with people broadcasting their illegal activities—or who would want to risk even interviewing someone they figure would fail a drug test, anyway—I wish she would keep it off the Internet.

    But like you, I have no idea how to get this point across. I’m afraid it’s going to come down to some hard lessons for this generation.

  4. Exactly. We definitely had a freedom to mess up that younger people today just don’t have. I’m not being trailed around by widespread evidence of every stupid thing I did when I was younger. I get to move beyond mistakes I made. I’m not sure if my younger relatives are going to have that same luxury.

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