This week I read about two different instances where football teams were shut down due to sexual assault–on younger players. As a part of hazing.
This, I think, is the hardest thing to fight about rape culture. I know I’ve said this before, but I’m going to say it again. We live in a culture where power is sustained through doing things to others they do not want done to them. The football coach tells you to run up the hill and you don’t want to, but you do because he said so. He has power over you. But you don’t have to be powerless. You can stick a broom up a 14 year old’s butt, even though he doesn’t want you to. You have some power.
I don’t know how we undo a culture like this by only insisting men stop raping women. They are only doing to us what’s been done to them.